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How To Get Unstuck From Emotional Quicksand

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Disappointments. Frustration. Trials. Fears. Worries. Doubt. We all have them and if we don’t have them now, we will have them soon. We have talked about these tough emotional spots before on the blog in several faith-based posts on handling stress, becoming fearless, trusting the Lord, and so many more. In these tough times, our faith will be tested and holding on to Jesus will be a necessity! Today, though, we feel called to address the easy trap that we can all fall into when things aren’t how we want them to be, and that trap is something we are going to call emotional quicksand. You know what we mean…those pity parties, that everything is horrible forever type of thinking, and the general downward spiral of doom and gloom. Don’t go there! However, if you find yourself slipping, keep reading for my tips on how to get unstuck from emotional quicksand. 

1. Process Emotions Properly 

Letting yourself feel your emotions is a healthy start. Don’t hold on to emotions, but rather acknowledge them, feel them, and let them pass through you so you don’t get stuck reacting from a place of emotion that is void of rational thinking, sound counsel, and good wisdom.

2. Take Space

In order to react well, sometimes a deep breath or fresh air will be necessary. Give yourself permission to take space, both physically from someone or something, and definitely mentally for a moment or two so you can center yourself, fix your eyes on Jesus, and handle the situation as best as possible.

3. Have Necessary Conversations

Need to have a hard conversation? Talking about it face to face is always a good idea, once you have had time to process your emotions and take space. Speak out of love and from a place of Truth, with a peaceful voice and ears open to hear. The phrase “listening to understand” is always so helpful in a confrontation.

4. Release Control

Is a situation out of your control? As frustrating and scary as that may feel, release your desire to control what you can’t. Give it to God and thank Him for handling what you cannot. You will hopefully find the freedom that comes from the release and in turn, trust that He has your life in His complete control!

5. Move Forward In Prayer

No matter the situation, it is important we move forward and don’t stay stuck where we are. Say your prayers, ask for God’s wisdom, and take the next step forward in faith while embracing your current reality. God knows our needs before we express them, but we are called to ask! It’s pretty cool. Not to mention, this further develops our relationship with God.

6. Count Your Blessings 

Focusing on what you have to be grateful for is such an important step to get unstuck and pay attention to the positive. Trust and faith open up the door to counting your blessings, which enables you to appreciate where you are right now (despite what is happening) and bloom where you are planted.

images: Camille Styles Website / Teal Tomsen Photography 

Summer Shopping List

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Hey friends!

It’s officially feeling like summer time, and that means summer style is on my mind. I recently shared my summer state of mind and with that comes fun, easy, carefree clothing to set the mood. Scroll down to see what staples are in my summer wardrobe. If you are looking to add a few new things to your own summer wardrobe, my hope is that this summer shopping list inspires you! Wishing you a relaxed summer season in clothes that you feel comfortable, confident, and totally “you” in.

xo Lo.

Summer Shopping List

Bikini top & bottom

One piece

Flip flops

Sun hat

Denim shorts

White top

Date night dress

Casual dress

Cover up

Comfy shorts

Basic tank

Baseball cap

 

What I’m Wearing

tee (c/o) | pants | sunnies | shoes (c/o)

My 5 Favorite Foods Right Now | No. 1

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Hey guys! If you are part of the Clean Sweep, follow me on Instagram, or are a regular reader of the blog, you know by now that eating clean, healthy, delicious foods is so important to me. I thought it would be fun to start regularly sharing my current five favorite foods in the kitchen, so here’s the first round for you. Enjoy!

Sauerkraut

this adds so much flavor to every meal, improves digestion, boosts your immune system, and is a great food to feed your sweet tooth even though it’s not sweet!

Massaged kale

kale massaged in olive oil and pink salt- that’s it! it minimizes the potentially potent taste of kale and makes it dense and extra delicious.

Paleo Puffs

the most amazing healthy snack!

Coconut Kefir

boosts liver health, boots gut health, boosts the immune system, and boosts brain health + tastes so good.

Sunflower Butter

another amazing protein-filled butter if you want an alternative to almond butter

What I’m Wearing:

madewell cardigan top (similar from free people)

Summer State of Mind

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These are just a few things that come to mind when I think of welcoming summer this weekend with memorial day weekend. My summer state of mind is already in full gear and I am so expectant of this sweet season spent savoring moments of rest and new adventures with my guy, our friends, and our families. And side-note, how could this light & bright layer not make me dream of summer? The color seriously brings me so much joy and is the perfect light layer for summer athleisure.

S U M M E R

sun-filled days + cooled-down nights :: weekend escapes to the ocean :: late saturday nights and slow sunday mornings :: taking time to rest and dream :: & enjoying the season fully

WHAT I’M WEARING:

*all items c/o brands*

bike shorts | crop top | jacket

images: felicia lasala 

Pausing To Pray

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As we all know, life gets pretty busy. Am I right or am I right!? God is so gracious, though, and has given us an amazing, restful gift as a tool to navigate the busyness of life and that is PRAYER. No matter what we go through, prayer is always ours to practice and it is a direct connection to our Father. In a moment of stress at work? Put the phone down and pray. Unable to make a decision? Turn your eyes upward and pray. Overwhelmed by your to-do list at home? Step away from the pad of paper and pray. Frustrated with someone you love dearly? Excuse yourself momentarily and pray.

It sounds easy, right? Yes, except for the fact that in the moment we can sometimes forget to pray. No matter how much we love the Lord and trust Him wholeheartedly, as humans, we can get caught up in life and seriously forget that we have the amazing gift of prayer, of direct communication with our Maker, available to us at all times. All we have to do is remember whose we are and call out to Him.

Jase and I have been extra busy with the home renovation we are doing, so prayer has been an absolute blessing to help handle the task. We were both a little in over our heads the other day, and we got so caught up in the frustration that we forgot to pray. I was driving in the car, and it hit me! What peace it brings, almost immediately, when we pray in the midst of feeling overwhelmed. Prayer releases us from the cycle of frustration (or the feeling of wanting to control something) and reminds us that God is sovereign over all the things and he’s with us! We are not handling this alone- He is supporting us, comforting us, and guiding us every step of the way. PRAISE JESUS! 

OUTFIT DETAILS (all items c/o brands)

blazer | denim | tee | shoes

images: felicia lasala 

Standing In Steadfast Security

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Happy Friday, friends!

We recently heard a sermon on security and it really got our minds thinking. We have talked here on the blog about handling stress, guarding our hearts, trust, comfort, wisdom and so much more, but almost every faith-based message ends up focusing on the necessity of finding refuge in the Lord. It’s no coincidence!

In the sermon, the pastor speaks about how insecurity drives our fear. How true is this? When we don’t feel secure, safe, and firmly rooted, fear starts to take off. However, we have a forever, faithful, trusted safeguard against insecurity when we are are only putting our security in Christ. When we try to put our faith in something or someone else other than Jesus (be it your house, a person, job security, money, praise, possessions, health, our looks, abilities, or anything….) it doesn’t work. However, when Jesus is our rock, refuge, and fortress, we have a peace and security that is sure, guaranteed, steadfast, and true no matter what our circumstances are. This security allows us to stop striving, rest in Him, and be free of fear.

If you feel that you need a perspective shift when it comes to your security, hold the below verses from Psalm 18 close to your heart. Memorizing scripture is so powerful when insecurity, fear, and doubt try to worm their way in. Stand strong and use His word as your armor!

Psalm 18:1-3 

I love you, Lord, my strength.
The Lord is my rock,
my fortress, and my deliverer,
my God, my rock where I seek refuge,
my shield and the horn of my salvation,
my stronghold.
I called to the Lord, who is worthy of praise,
and I was saved from my enemies. (CSB)

OUTFIT DETAILS

dress | sunnies | shoes (c/o)

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